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Might not be online... Apr 22, 2009 9:57:37 GMT -5

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Post by Aura on Apr 22, 2009 9:57:37 GMT -5

Hey guys.

Ummm...I don't know how to say this, really. I'm not leaving forever, and I'm certainly not going to be inactive. I'll still be on a few times a week, and I'll still post as much as I can. I just might be a little rarer around here than I normally am, that's all.

I'm dealing with a lot right now. I mean...yesterday, I just found out my friend got raped. (And no, it wasn't me that got raped. It really was my friend.) Not only am I little freaked out, I've been crying constantly because I'm so worried, as well as reading all of these not-really-helpful sites about what do to if your friend got raped. It all says the same thing, I'm still freaked out, she's acting like she doesn't care and got over it already, and...well, it's hard. I don't even know the guy who did that to her, but suffice it to say that if I ever did meet him he would no longer be alive. (Not really. I would never kill anyone.)

It's just...I care more about my friends than I care about myself. His doing this to someone who is one of my best friends is almost unforgivable. I don't know what to do anymore. (If any of you have advice, it'd be welcome.)

Bottom line is, I won't be online as often because I'm trying to deal with this problem, as well as juggle school and upcoming finals, as well as trying to run every day and sew clothes for a camp I'm going to this summer. Somehow I'll make time, but until then...

All my love,
Aura

Last Edit: Apr 22, 2009 9:59:58 GMT -5 by Aura

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Might not be online... Apr 22, 2009 13:48:24 GMT -5

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Post by sonofshadows on Apr 22, 2009 13:48:24 GMT -5

Holy crap. My immediate reaction was unprintable. Forgiveness is hard, and takes a lot of time. Being a Christian, I pray when I need to forgive someone. I pray for the strength to do so. It helps. Be there for your friend, but realise that she'll probably be very uncomfortable and depressed for a long time. This is the sort of thing that can really screw a person's mental health up. If you ever want to talk, you have my MSN. If I can help, I will. I wish you, and your friend well.

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Might not be online... Apr 22, 2009 14:36:58 GMT -5

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Post by gm bourgeois decadence [aya] on Apr 22, 2009 14:36:58 GMT -5

Wow.

That's gotta be really hard for her especially, but you as a friend, too. I can't really give you any advice (my friend's got issues with her stoner boyfriend and I'm next to useless besides pressuring her to break up with him) but I hope that everything ends up... better, at least. The best to you both.

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Might not be online... Apr 22, 2009 20:24:36 GMT -5

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Post by Aura on Apr 22, 2009 20:24:36 GMT -5

Thanks, to both of you. I honestly don't know what to do. I'm usually a very forgiving person, and if that guy had raped me, I would have forgiven him within a heartbeat. I suppose I value my friends above myself, though. It's so hard, you know? The thing is, she's not ACTING like it's screwing up her mental health. She's just...there. She keeps acting like it's not a big deal that it happened. Ugh.

sonofshadows: Thanks. I'm a Christian, too, and I've been praying about it. I don't know how I'm going to forgive this, though. I suppose I'm just not used to having to pray about forgiving someone since I usually forgive them so easily. And I might take you up on that offer sometime, just to have someone to talk to. Thanks again.

gm bourgeois decadence [aya]: Thanks hon. Having a friend with an abusive boyfriend is hard, as well. I hope things work out for you. =/ Best of luck.

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Might not be online... Apr 22, 2009 23:23:28 GMT -5

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Post by Gorim on Apr 22, 2009 23:23:28 GMT -5

Oh, hon, I'm so sorry. To you, for being sucked into this whole mess, to your friend, who went through it.
Several of my friends (Almost all of them) have had terrible childhoods, and one was even molested at a young age. Two have, according to them, been raped.
I'm no Christian, so I find it hard, even impossible, to forgive people like that. My thoughts on the subject are harsh, at best, so I won't bog you down with them. I'm sure you have enough on your plate without my bad thoughts.

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Might not be online... Apr 22, 2009 23:33:07 GMT -5

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Post by Sunrise Rainier D2 // [Thundy] on Apr 22, 2009 23:33:07 GMT -5

Aura

I'm incredibly sorry.That's absolutely terrible,and I can't imagine how hard this is for you.

I really wish there was something I could do,but all I can do is talk to you.

Message me or something,if you need to.

I'll pray for your friend and you.

I can't even think anymore.That's so terrible.

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Might not be online... Apr 23, 2009 0:03:33 GMT -5

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Post by Quint on Apr 23, 2009 0:03:33 GMT -5

Hey Aura.

I hope you understand how incredibly sorry I am for you. Like Thundy, I too can't do much but talk you through this. Message me also. Just know, Me and Thundy will always be there for ya. Till' the very end, okay? I miss you. I haven't talked to you in a while. I'm sooo sorry for that too. I miss you so much.

Your loving friend,
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Might not be online... Apr 23, 2009 16:22:30 GMT -5

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Post by +Unk the Ninja+ on Apr 23, 2009 16:22:30 GMT -5

Oh my God..I'm so bad at talking in these situations... know that when I don't say very much, it is because I don't know what to say, not because I'm heartless. I'll give it a try, anyways:

*hugs* I hope everything works out..for her, and especially for you. My main advice is this: don't bring it up if she doesn't. If she wants to talk about it, she will initiate the conversation...it shouldn't be you, in case she doesn't want to. You mentioned she's shrugging it off..if this is really bothering you, as it sounds it is, gently broach the topic..I would say something like, "It was a life-changing event..if you need someone to talk to, I am here, and if not me, there are others. We can help you.." etc.

Best of luck in everything...I hope I see you soon, hope everything works out.

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